Boys will be boys should be men

Eleanor Henry is a 22 year old law student from Melbourne who has just posted images on facebook to show the objectification women can be subjected to. The photos show a group chat she was “accidentally” added to, where fellow university students had referred to her as a ‘bike’ and encouraged one of them to pursue her with obscene tips like asking her for a picture to “show me where you piss from”.

And people still don’t get it. It’s not that they were talking about asking her out, it’s the derogatory way they described it.

Tell me that there is even a shred of respect or appreciating her as a person with those comments.

Enough of this ‘it’s just boys being boys’ crap. These boys need to grow the fuck up then because real men respect women. They see them as people and respect their sexuality. They do not treat them as sex objects. There is a difference and it’s about time boys understand what that nuanced but important distinction is!

Would the respectable men in your life ever speak about a woman in this way, even behind closed doors in the ‘men’s locker room’? I know all the men in my life and my friends’ husbands wouldn’t, and they are all very stereotypically ‘manly’ men. So don’t lump these sexist, misogynist boys into the same ‘boys club’ because you are doing the real men a disservice.

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Apologies for my pregnancy #sorrynotsorry

Once again, our favourite Zoe Saldana is fighting the good fight in hollywood, this time, highlighting the inequality and discrimination against working mothers.

Let me tell you something, it will never be the right time for anybody in your life that you get pregnant. The productions I was slated to work on sort of had a panic. I heard through the grapevine there was even a conversation of me being written off of one of the projects. I was like, ‘Oh, my God, are you kidding me? It’s this bad?’ Right when I just feel super-duper happy, is that inconvenient for you? That me, as a woman in my thirties, I finally am in love and I am finally starting my life? And it’s (screwing) your schedule up? Really?

And then when trying to negotiate a nanny or childcare into her contract, she was met with more discrimination.

[Studio] spend more money sometimes ‘perking’ up male superstars in a movie, a really phat penthouse or them staying in a yacht instead of them staying on land.

But then a woman comes in going, ‘OK, I have a child. You’re taking me away from my home. You’re taking my children away from their home. And you’re going to make me work a lot more hours than I usually would if I was home. Therefore, I would have to pay for this nanny for more hours — so I kind of need that. And they go, ‘Nope, we don’t pay for nannies.’

While Saldana has the means in which to pay for her childcare, it is the principle that she wants highlighted. If a celebrity of her status can’t negotiate childcare into her contract, how on earth are any of the rest of us meant too?

This has been my issue for a long time. Until they find a way for men to incubate a child in their bodies for nine months, women are always going to get pregnant so let’s stop using that as justification of the gender pay gap and start providing more childcare options in and around the workplace.

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‘Mad Men’-level sexism coming to an office near you.

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This article dissects the sexism Peggy and Joan experience in the first episode of Mad Men’s last season and overlays a similar experience of the writer to highlight and explain the subtle sexism that goes on in offices still today. To the untrained these comments might seem throw-away and not inherently sexist, but to those on the receiving end the true meaning comes across loud and clear.

The slights are usually much subtler, the kind that are hard to explain to anyone who doesn’t inherently understand. The sexism appears in everyday conversation, like last season, when Pete said Peggy was “every bit as good as any woman in this business” — meaning she was participating in some women-only side competition in advertising, rather than competing with everyone in advertising.

By casting the nature of our confrontation as one in which he said something to hurt my feelings, he’s working behind the scenes to make me look emotional and sensitive. More “female.”

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A simple misunderstanding?

A man in Melbourne has received death threats after mistakenly shamed on social media – because being a male and taking photos around children automatically makes you a paedophile.

The man was actually taking a selfie when a woman thought he was taking photos of her kids, so she decided to take a photo of him and put it up on facebook and inaccurately label him a registered sex offender.

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